So, I think a bit of the 'God helps those who help themselves' enters into things. These are very important things to be worked on. But sometimes the basic steps of healing are missed and everything is about 'turning it over.' We do have the responsibility to recognize bad coping skills, poor boundaries, how we deal or do not deal with triggers, etc. Trusting is God is a wonderful concept and a good thing to do. I've been to the other groups and there can be a ton of unhealthy relationships that occur there due to a bunch of unhealthy people attending. It was about healing from abuse and learning what needed to be done. ![]() This group was facilitated by two therapists.there was no talk of 'giving it to God,' etc. It was still a good learning experience that I could be around people and still take care of me while supporting others in a healthy manner. It was like a huge valve release that I didn't have before.Īnd yes, I tried to become friends outside the group with one person, but immediately she displayed poor boundaries and I had to back off. I could come every week and talk about my struggles. It was a good experience simply because I felt less alone on my journey. She cautioned me to have appropriate boundaries with them and to look at the experience as one of practicing social relationships and sharing in a healthy manner. They could be very needy and have extremely inappropriate boundaries. She said that many of the people there might not be as far along in their healing as I was. It was only with the OK from my therapist. I attended a sexual survivors group for a few weeks. Take care, I hope you find some reassurance on this issue as all others. Try not to be to hard on the other members, i'm sure Omnicell was only expressing care for you in their own way. Have you thought about speaking to your therapist about your concerns? they might reassure you a bit? Kind of like a toolkit with three screwdrivers - even though you only use one you know the others are there just in case. Like you I doubt I would ever go to a group, though round here there is no option for that and in a way I feel that as a loss in options. Even if its never something you would do surely any recognition and support for sufferers is a good thing. Maybe you could try and look at is as any support is good support, so whilst its not right for you right now it may be something for the future. I 'care' for a family member with problems as well, and having to push your own needs onto the backburner means that they tend to spill over. I totally sympathise with not feeling ready to help others heal yet. ![]() I can understand how frustrating that must be, nobody wants to be pushed into anything.
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